Nov 11, 2021
Cynthia Nixon. Meredith Baxter. Niecy Nash. Cassandra Peterson/Elvira. Elizabeth Gilbert. Glennon Doyle. Carol Liefer. Wanda Sykes.
What do the incredibly accomplished and talented women on this list all have in common?
They all dated and/or married men…until later in life when they all fell in love with other woman.
Often to their own surprise.
Known as Later in Life Lesbians, these women discovered an entirely new level of intimacy, happiness and sexual satisfaction, with members of the same sex.
It should be no surprise. In a recent study, 95% of heterosexual men said they reached orgasm when being sexually intimate. How many hetero women had orgasms with their male partners? 65%.
Read that again. 95% of straight men had orgasms. 65% of straight women. In comparison, the orgasm rate for lesbians was 86%. Not that I even need to explain this, but the women who reported more orgasms were recipients of more oral sex.
Because, of course.
Men, I’ve been saying this for years. You are the next Fotomat.
What is driving so many women to switch teams later in life? Is this part of a much bigger trend? Is this all a backlash because so many straight women are sexually dissatisfied due to their male partners? Is this all about the dishwasher?
Whatever the case may be, sexuality is lot more fluid than many realize.
To get some answers, I speak with Coming Out Coach, Anne-Marie Zanzal. An author, and herself, a later in life lesbian, she provides one-on-one and group coaching to women coming out later in life. Her memoir Authentic Peace tells the story of her chaotic childhood, challenging marriage, sexual awakening, and recreating her life after 50.
We talk about the growing phenomenon of women becoming lesbians later in life. The not-so surprising reasons behind their decisions. And then she gives me her Are You Secretly a Lesbian test.
It was an oral exam, natch.
No matter where you are on your journey, there’s a good chance you’ve made many life choices for reasons you don’t even realize. A lot of people stay in unsuccessful relationships for all sorts of reasons. It can be challenging to understand a brand new attraction or perhaps feelings you’ve kept suppressed for years.
But, remember, life is short. You deserve all of the happiness and consensual pleasure you desire.
Anne-Marie’s Social Media Links
Facebook — https://www.facebook.com/revzanzal
Website — https://annemariezanzal.com/
Instagram — https://www.instagram.com/annemariezanzalcoaching/
O Quarterly — https://www.oprahdaily.com/life/a37762569/late-in-life-lesbian-story/
Blog — https://annemariezanzal.com/tips-on-queer-dating-when-coming-out-later-in-life-by-reina-gattuso/
Additional Information Resources
https://www.wellandgood.com/coming-out-later-in-life/
https://www.chatelaine.com/living/coming-out-later-in-life/
https://www.wbur.org/npr/129050832/story.php
https://www.huffpost.com/entry/things-lesbians-want-you-to-know_b_8577926
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Niecy Nash image by John Mueller, CC BY 2.5
Cynthia Nixon image by Yahoo from Sunnyvale, California, USA, CC BY 2.0
Elvira Image by Orange County Archives from Orange County, California, United States of America, CC BY 2.0