Jun 19, 2020
In a world that routinely shuts down, dominates, gaslights, harasses, and demeans people of color, you’d think Black folks would not be interested in power play.
Well, you would be wrong.
“But I never see any Black folks in the kink world!”
Maybe that’s because when we see representations of kink in movies, online, on the “adults only” magazine rack behind the slushee machine at a gas station, we typically see 50 shades of white people. Sadly, we exist in a world that treats whiteness as a default. Orrrrrr, when you finally do see people of color, it’s often because they’re being fetishized by white people.
What if you are a person of color and you want to engage in a little kink? Is that going to be even more difficult than getting served some motherfucking eggs at Denny’s?
Hopefully, not.
On this episode, I get the lowdown on accessing pleasure, and the Black kink scene from therapist, educator and sex-positive enthusiast, Shanae “HonestlyNae” Adams. Shanae is on a mission of sexuality normalization, explanation and melinated representation. Known for leading dynamic workshops, a sex-positive mindset and eliminating taboos, Shanae takes me into the world of Black kinksters.
We talk about being an ethical Domme, the unique healing properties of kink, how to make sure you’re in a safe kink space, and how diverse groups are embracing their sexuality and finding deep pleasure through exploring hierarchical relationships and the dynamics of power play.
Shanae also offers really amazing tips for all of us to learn how to access and then demand pleasure. Hint: It doesn’t involve sex. At first, anyway.
I’m so grateful that Shanae introduced me to a world about which I knew absolutely nothing. Her deep understanding of opening yourself up to pleasure and the healing properties of kink are just a couple of the reasons why Shanae is a “go to” expert in the world of sexuality.
Want to learn more about your favorite things? Start listening to new people.
To work with Shanae or find out about her upcoming seminars, check out her website, HonestlyNae.com.
Check out the Sex Down South conference to see if you’d like to attend. Use Shanae’s discount code SHANAESDS and save 20%!
Here’s The Nap Ministry mentioned by Shanae.
Here is a list of Black Owned Sex Toy/Sexual Health Brands.
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